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My name is Kgothatso and to some, I am Mistress Black Clover.

More commonly though, people call me Your Pleasure Advocate. I use my sex coaching and experience as a professional BDSM practitioner to support and empower people to incorporate pleasure in their lives, in the myriad of ways that pleasure can be experienced.

I implore nature, the spiritual, creativity, the arts and play to release that which may be inhibiting us from being out authentic selves, and from enjoying this existence.

I believe pleasure is our birth right. As we grow, there are many physical, emotional, mental, societal and even relational challenges that make it difficult to exercise it. I find joy and purpose in supporting people discover their truths and giving them tools so they can get closer to their authentic selves and the experiences they would like to have – all this while reminding them that their pleasure matters too.

My time working and living in Hong Kong gave me experience working with people from all over the world and differing cultures; while I pride myself in serving African people on the continent, everyone is welcome here!

As a queer, non-monogamous kink inclined mother and partner, I have supported people through my writing, through radio, television, public and private events, and in various community initiatives. I draw from my wide experiences and extensive theoretical knowledge to be the best advocate I can be for those I support through my coaching.

Additional Details

  • Biography, degrees, certifications:I completed my sex coaching qualification through Sex Coach U in 2021 and I am also a certified Gender Equality Changemaker (University of Pretoria, 2022)
  • Primary Audiences Served:I have supported individuals and couples of different sexes, gender and orientations. Both monogamous and non-monogamous clients are most welcome here.
  • Services Offered:I offer talk coaching, BDSM and somatic sessions both in virtually and in person.
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    Q Do you offer in in-person sessions?

    Yes, I do offer in person sessions for people residing in Johannesburg, South Africa. Clients outside of Johannesburg should enquire via email if it is possible for me to see them in person.

    Q Do you only offer talk coaching services?

    Apart from the virtual talk coaching, I also offer in-person coaching sessions to people residing in Johannesburg.

    I also offer somatic and BDSM services to people residing in Johannesburg.

    Clients outside of Johannesburg should enquire via email if it is possible for me to see them in person.

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    April, 2024



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    August 26,2019

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    • Price Range 45 USD